Unspoken Thoughts

Hello :) (yea still can’t use emojis on here) anyway remember the complaints about school? And can you blame me, two indefinite closures, several go slows and class boycotts, I was mentally disrupted, lost focus but… **drumroll**… I managed to go on to my next year so woop woop *backflips* *moonwalks* and…..*jazz hands* lol okay I’m done. So, it was midnight, everyone in the house had gone to sleep, I’m a night owl so was watching t.v scrolling through channels trying to find something to watch when I saw ‘Nkani yamu sisi’ I like the show so I tuned in and the topic of discussion interested me so here we are… celibacy. First things first, what is to be celibate? Simply refraining from sex/sexual activity and/or marriage. Various people have different reasons for deciding to become celibate. Maybe after having had sex one decides to change for religious purposes or maybe they’ve just had enough or they’re tired of feeling like sex objects or just taking a break, there are several r...

Was in bed yesterday and at around 10:13am… *ding*… a notification on my phone. Twitter, opened it and it was a link to a blog I am highly addicted to, so I quickly sat up and clicked on that link so fast at the excitement of having something interesting to read. So there I was engulfed in the story of this chick who had found herself on a date with a guy who had a bit of an opinion about body counts and a woman with a body count of above 5 was deemed ‘loose’ or ‘easy’ thereby undateable or not wife material but he said for him it was okay because, and I quote, “he is a man”. *rolling eyes* Here goes another male specimen with a double standard about how men can sleep with whatever, whoever and with no problem but a female does it and she’s a ‘hoe’. Come on people. *sigh* Times now are different. They are not how they used to be when our parents were growing up and it wasn’t for them how it was when their parents or grandparents were growing up…. Sex today is taken so lightly and...

Growth… I was sooo eager to grow up and be an adult laden with responsibility, wisdom, bills, stress! How hard could it possibly be? The caterpillar seems to adjust pretty quick, it just comes out of its cocoon and bam, it knows how to fly, when to fly, what to eat, what not to eat so for a human that’s way more developed than a caterpillar, growth should be a breeze right?................. WRONG!! *sigh* The 20s man… high off the teenage years, just about over puberty, self- discovery, eager and filled with the zeal to live life, be wild all while trying to get yourself together and learn to be independent/be your own person, emancipated and doing a good job at messing it all up and making wrong decisions….. I can’t. Don’t know what I was thinking wanting to be older. Take me back to pre- school when my biggest struggle was deciding whether to colour my teeth purple or play in a pool of mud. So, with my birthday having been 2 weeks ago on the 1st of June, a few things came into p...

Hello… yes, yes, it’s been a while… oh how I’ve missed sitting down and emptying my thoughts down and getting to share them. School… aaarrggghh. Past two months have been crazy. Never been so uncertain about anything before. Hardest learning curve so far. I’ve had to put a lot of things in perspective you guys. I feel so defeated but no… we’re fighters, we take a few blows but we shake it off and keep swinging, you know, like the saying, “unless you puke, faint or die, keep going.” I did not follow through with getting my ducks in a row. That’s why today, I’m on about commitment, now this could be in so many areas so I’ll break it down in a few ways based on my struggles. School. Most times I’m just floating through feeling like I’m not even sure why I’m even going through all this ‘til I’m faced with the need to be better, do better, be great, learn, acquire knowledge then it makes sense. And even with that I’m faced with the struggle to stay consistent with study, keeping my grade...

Thought it was time for an update on the He Can Get It post... and so here goes: I had talked about the repulsion effect in that post... and had been thinking heavily about it. About how we tend to love the people that hate and hurt us or the ones we would never have a chance with. You know, the guys that make plans with you and you go all out to get ready. The perfect outfit, face beat, hair did and smelling good and then *ring-ring* he can't make it, all or most times but because you're so into him you keep putting up with it. Or the guys we're willing to lay it all for because we think we've found "the one" but he cheats and betrays your trust more than you know but when you find out, you forgive him because you love him. Then there's the guy that has you feeling all kinds of good. The almost perfect guy that knows just what to say to get you hooked and high on him. He's fun and exciting.... and in a relationship. You know you shouldn't ...

Hello :) Last week I spoke to someone I wish I had spoken to so much earlier. She's like my soul mate in a way. Lol yes that serious. We clicked at first text. It felt so good and refreshing to talk to someone who shares my thoughts and views on a lot of things. She's focused and driven, smart, well spoken, huge ambitions and passionate about a lot of things. She wants to do things, make things happen, and has set such high standards for herself. She's beautiful and dresses well too. [If you're reading this, yes it's totally you Tinashe :)] It made me so happy. knowing there are other females just like this gives me such a high. DISCLAIMER: I am no female activist. Just a female who loves to see fellow females doing great and amazing things. Now here in Africa, there's the idea that a girl child finally getting married is her greatest accomplishment. There's even a checklist: □ Primary education □ Secondary education □ Tertiary education □ Mar...

Hey y'all.... so yesterday the 4th of April there was a bus accident in which it is reported about 6 people died. Tragic. Especially for the families of the deceased. But... all over social media I only kept seeing condolences to one family. The one whose daughter was a bride to be. Of course absolutely nothing wrong with issuing out condolences. Only problem is this tendency to only feel remorse for and talk about the "celebrity". I'll explain. If there are 2 or 3 people in a vehicle and of those people one of them happens to be a famous person and then an accident occurs, the only person or person's family that will receive tons of love, remorse and have posts of condolences sent their way is that of the famous person. And this really bothers me because do the lives of the other victims not matter and go unnoticed because they were unknowns? No. Every life matters and cannot be measured or valued by one's level of popularity or wealth. So back to yes...