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CELIBACY... Can you handle it?

Hello :) (yea still can’t use emojis on here) anyway remember the complaints about school? And can you blame me, two indefinite closures, several go slows and class boycotts, I was mentally disrupted, lost focus but… **drumroll**… I managed to go on to my next year so woop woop *backflips* *moonwalks* and…..*jazz hands* lol okay I’m done.

 So, it was midnight, everyone in the house had gone to sleep, I’m a night owl so was watching t.v scrolling through channels trying to find something to watch when I saw ‘Nkani yamu sisi’ I like the show so I tuned in and the topic of discussion interested me so here we are… celibacy.
First things first, what is to be celibate? Simply refraining from sex/sexual activity and/or marriage. Various people have different reasons for deciding to become celibate. Maybe after having had sex one decides to change for religious purposes or maybe they’ve just had enough or they’re tired of feeling like sex objects or just taking a break, there are several reasons but the issue is when one decides to do so while in a relationship. Because I think when you’re single, it’s easier to but when you’re with someone who hasn’t made a vow of celibacy well…

 Can you do it? I think if you’ve been really active sexually it wouldn’t be easy because it’s like fighting an addiction, you either have to be strong willed or let it kill you... at least you'd have died doing something you love

 Can you fight/resist the urge to have sex? If when you decide to, you and your current partner have already done the deed then aaaaaahh uliimbe iwe! ku kosa! You need a self-control level of at LEAST two billion and six

 Will your partner be supportive? Errrrrrrmm *stares at ceiling* some would be, some wouldn’t and would make it known then theres those that will act like it’s okay when it really isn’t so a day or two of prayer and fasting, fingers and toes crossed and a dollop of faith your partner supports your decision.

 Can you trust your partner not to cheat while you take your vow of celibacy? NO. lol. I don’t need to explain this okay just DON’T TRUST HUMANS

 Measures to take for you to be successful at it? Keep your legs closed. Keep it in your pants. If that’s too much of a challenge then don’t be in secluded areas, be out in the open with a ton of people around you e.g church. Go to church. The guilt will help unless you have no conscience then you’re screwed… literally *wink*

Is it fair to make your partner refrain just because you don’t want to? Hmmm if the other person expects you to give up the ‘cooch’ or ‘pipe’ because they want to then there’s an equal share of selfishness but it’s okay as long as there’s equality right?

And then… is it easier for men or women? Definitely women, of course my opinion is biased and it’s the 21st century, we’re all for women empowerment so that’s my answer for everything.

On a serious note though, do whatever the heck you want to do however you want to. I would like to know your opinions on this topic though so comment below, e-mail me, tweet me, facebook, whatever you’re comfortable with…

Thanks for reading :)
~XO~

Comments

  1. Mystery29 July 2016 at 12:29

    this was a wonderful read.. i do think its equally hard for both sexes. there is so much societal pressure for women to think and act a certain way, our "kufa na no" skills are just strong. this is a huge topic (like a bottomless pit)..the answer: do what you want, just dont tell anyone!!! whatever you do i urge you to do a seyance, dance around a tree and clap your hands three times to invoke the spirit of SHUT UP lol

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    1. Unknown2 August 2016 at 23:36

      Lol come on Mr. Mystery Man we both know who the weaker sex is when it comes to abstaining

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  2. Bee of Glamlushhair2 August 2016 at 12:21

    Celibacy is possible, but both parties have to be agreed on it from the start. If you start a relationship and you haven't discussed sexual expectations, you're just setting yourselves up for a serious clash. Just be frank about it from the outset. if the other isn't willing to abstain then better to let them go, coz u compromise on your personal belief. Just as they will be willing to let you go coz because they don't want to be celibate. so yes, possible with a loooot of self control and boundaries.
    Easier for men or women? Hmmm im tempted to say women, looking at it from a biological perspective..

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    1. Unknown2 August 2016 at 23:39

      I agree with having a discussion about it in the beginning but what if you decide on being celibate 2 years into the relationship? Some people people may find it hard to let go of someone after a long time

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