Thought it was time for an update on the He Can Get It post... and so here goes:
I had talked about the repulsion effect in that post... and had been thinking heavily about it. About how we tend to love the people that hate and hurt us or the ones we would never have a chance with.
You know, the guys that make plans with you and you go all out to get ready. The perfect outfit, face beat, hair did and smelling good and then *ring-ring* he can't make it, all or most times but because you're so into him you keep putting up with it.
Or the guys we're willing to lay it all for because we think we've found "the one" but he cheats and betrays your trust more than you know but when you find out, you forgive him because you love him.
Then there's the guy that has you feeling all kinds of good. The almost perfect guy that knows just what to say to get you hooked and high on him. He's fun and exciting.... and in a relationship. You know you shouldn't be tolerating or entertaining him but he's such a thrill and even though he tells you countless times how much he likes/loves you and wants to be with you he still stays with his girl/woman.
The ones that are mean to us. Never reciprocating our signs of affection.
The ones that are verbally and physically abusive.
The ones that could potentially take us down a destructive route.
Why? Why are we so keen on loving the ones that hurt us? The ones who just want to use us. The ones who will say whatever they can to get you just to waste your time....
We stay talking to each other about the same kind of guys and never stop to think why the pattern.
Once open and vulnerable we females will put up with all sorts never realising it is because of that particular reason they take advantage of us and leave us hurting.
My dear stop. STOP! Stop wallowing in self pity because of a guy or guys who didn't see your value enough to cherish it.
You know that nice guy that actually wants to see you and talk to you and genuinely compliments you and asks about you. The one you think is 'too nice' that's the kind of guy you deserve. Give your all to a guy who is willing and actually gives you in equal measure what you give to him.
Actions.... don't be swayed by his words and charm... let his words match his actions
You deserve love. Loyalty. Honesty.
And until you realise and acknowledge your great worth and value, you're going to find yourself going through the same cycle with guys who don't value you a 100% as well.
Cheers to the good guys. The ones that don't treat you like an option or like you're in competition for the top spot. The ones that hold one spot for you. The ones that genuinely care and would go above and beyond to better themselves to make you happy.... They can totally get it ;)
I had talked about the repulsion effect in that post... and had been thinking heavily about it. About how we tend to love the people that hate and hurt us or the ones we would never have a chance with.
You know, the guys that make plans with you and you go all out to get ready. The perfect outfit, face beat, hair did and smelling good and then *ring-ring* he can't make it, all or most times but because you're so into him you keep putting up with it.
Or the guys we're willing to lay it all for because we think we've found "the one" but he cheats and betrays your trust more than you know but when you find out, you forgive him because you love him.
Then there's the guy that has you feeling all kinds of good. The almost perfect guy that knows just what to say to get you hooked and high on him. He's fun and exciting.... and in a relationship. You know you shouldn't be tolerating or entertaining him but he's such a thrill and even though he tells you countless times how much he likes/loves you and wants to be with you he still stays with his girl/woman.
The ones that are mean to us. Never reciprocating our signs of affection.
The ones that are verbally and physically abusive.
The ones that could potentially take us down a destructive route.
Why? Why are we so keen on loving the ones that hurt us? The ones who just want to use us. The ones who will say whatever they can to get you just to waste your time....
We stay talking to each other about the same kind of guys and never stop to think why the pattern.
Once open and vulnerable we females will put up with all sorts never realising it is because of that particular reason they take advantage of us and leave us hurting.
My dear stop. STOP! Stop wallowing in self pity because of a guy or guys who didn't see your value enough to cherish it.
You know that nice guy that actually wants to see you and talk to you and genuinely compliments you and asks about you. The one you think is 'too nice' that's the kind of guy you deserve. Give your all to a guy who is willing and actually gives you in equal measure what you give to him.
Actions.... don't be swayed by his words and charm... let his words match his actions
You deserve love. Loyalty. Honesty.
And until you realise and acknowledge your great worth and value, you're going to find yourself going through the same cycle with guys who don't value you a 100% as well.
Cheers to the good guys. The ones that don't treat you like an option or like you're in competition for the top spot. The ones that hold one spot for you. The ones that genuinely care and would go above and beyond to better themselves to make you happy.... They can totally get it ;)
wish there was a solution
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