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Growing Pains... the 20s

Growth… I was sooo eager to grow up and be an adult laden with responsibility, wisdom, bills, stress! How hard could it possibly be? The caterpillar seems to adjust pretty quick, it just comes out of its cocoon and bam, it knows how to fly, when to fly, what to eat, what not to eat so for a human that’s way more developed than a caterpillar, growth should be a
breeze right?................. WRONG!!
*sigh*
The 20s man… high off the teenage years, just about over puberty, self- discovery, eager and filled with the zeal to live life, be wild all while trying to get yourself together and learn to be independent/be your own person, emancipated and doing a good job at messing it all up and making wrong decisions….. I can’t.
Don’t know what I was thinking wanting to be older. Take me back to pre- school when my biggest struggle was deciding whether to colour my teeth purple or play in a pool of mud.
So, with my birthday having been 2 weeks ago on the 1st of June, a few things came into perspective and I thought I’d share a few things that could be of help:
 Finances: Stumbled across a video on YouTube by Caroline Mutoko, she called it “Where did my money go?”
She mentioned key points on how reckless we can be with our spending especially with the need to fit in with all the trends. We purchase so many things that we don’t even need. She said, “If you buy good things you don’t have to have many things”…. “The reason you have many things is because it’s junk”… as a woman, start thinking quality not quantity. And that really resonated with me. One or three really good high quality bags and you’re set. No need for a million bags. Same goes for shoes and jewellery. Invest in something that will last a long time and save the rest of your money.
 Relationships: I feel like the advice on finances works here as well. I’m one of those people who believe in long lasting relationships. I want to be in it for the long haul, no games, no gambles or playing with emotions. One good guy/girl who you can stick it out with, you know.
**yes, still single and waiting** most of us mess up what could’ve been a good thing in our 20s in the name of trying to be young and enjoy life.
 Friendships: Again… quality not quantity… I’ve always been one to keep my circle of friends small, all you need is a good, honest friend who is guaranteed to have your back, keep it real and is willing to be with you through the toughest of times
 Family: Keeping a close knit relationship with family should’ve been top of the list because really, it’s a treasure, won’t even go into it.
 Focus: The things a little drive and focus can do, oh my… seriously, you try.
Look, I’m no expert, I’m over here trying to figure things out and get my
*bloop* together just as bad. I’m open to more tips, lessons, advice, so please do comment, e-mail me... thankyou for reading :)

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