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To Cheat Or Not To Cheat

"Guys can't take it if their woman was to have sex with someone else while women can't stand having their man fall for or develop feelings for someone else" ...heard this on a talkshow the other day.

Hmmm... I don't know about that! Because I for one would not want my man either sleeping with another woman or developing feelings for someone else.
I understand we females are emotional beings and so our feelings develop from how men talk to us, the things they say, the treatment we receive, the little romantic gestures or compliments that have us blushing (yea black girls blush too lol) and floating on all sorts of clouds. So I get how your man doing the same things that have you swooning for him, to/for another woman and getting attached to her would be a problem. 'cause if a man is telling me he loves me mmh I better be the only one being told those words.
And then, men are territorial beings. So having their woman laying in bed with some other man would cause severe ego damage lol.

I heard somewhere that if a woman cheats, it hurts more 'cause then you know she had an emotional connection with her partner in crime. While men on the other hand are capable of simply having sex with several women and feel nothing for any of them. Probably why the bemba saying, "ubu chende bwa mwaume tabu toba inganda" which quite frankly, I find absurd.
But besides all that, I still feel it isn't okay either way because there is really no way to justify both physical and emotional infidelity.
Both parties should simply stay faithful to each other and not cheat.

And if you feel the need or the want to cheat then you clearly aren't ready to commit and should just stay single so you can save your partner the heartache that comes with finding out one's partner cheated. Also you don't have to worry about being caught lol so it's a win-win.

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