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Why Are You Single?


There I was in my room on campus the entire festive season watching youtube videos non stop because I kinda have no life and I love it. So there I am watching a make-up tutorial and then i see one of the "bf tag" (boyfriend tag). I click on it and start to watch and before I know it i've watched a hundred cute couple videos. I couldn't help it plus y'all know I am such a hopeless romantic, I was blushing and up in the clouds as if I was the one in love lol. Then reality set in that I am single... *moment of silence*


 And then yesterday I got asked why I'm single... "Why are you single? What is wrong with you?"

 My brain shut down for a split second and when I came to, I was overwhelmed with a ton of emotions. "What is wrong with you?"
This person was saying I was single because something was wrong with me therefore unwanted. I tell you, the clogs and gears in my head were turning so fast I had steam coming out of my ears, my nose, my mouth, I was going crazy lol. 
People always say stuff like "you're too pretty to be single" "you must be difficult" "something must be wrong with you" "you'll get older and unattractive then no one will want you".... psssh... To that I say "rubbish!" And to them I say, what does being pretty have to do with my emotions and what I have to offer? If all you're basing on my relationship status are my looks you're telling me there's nothing else about me worth loving and I can't have that. If I prefer things a certain way, I most certainly will not compromise them for someone for fear of being called difficult. Why must you assume something is wrong with me and so I am not wanted? No,everything is right with me and I am the one not wanting. So what if i get older? Black don't crack baby and old is gold so eat dust  *drops mic*

 It really got me thinking though, so maybe i'll share those thoughts in my next post

 But then I, of course, am a lady and had to maintain my composure so I took a deep breath and said while quite calm and cool, "I am single because I want to be" 

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  1. Anonymous6 April 2016 at 08:14

    Are you still single? Lol, asking that makes me feel like I'm attempting to hit you on. I'm not. I'm just curious what the effect of this post was on your relationship status. Whether you realised it or not, posting this sent out a message to all the guys in your life that may have been interested in you that as long as they're nice and caring, they could stand a chance. And I'm sure one or two gave it a go. Question is, did you say yes? :)

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  2. Unknown6 April 2016 at 21:03

    Hmmm.... hopefully the answer to your question will pop up in one of my upcoming posts :) don't forget to subscribe so you don't miss it

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  3. Anonymous9 April 2016 at 12:41

    love your blog!

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