Unspoken Thoughts

Hey! It's been a minute.... yes, a really long minute 🙈 I know. But I'm back!! Woop woop. The festive season is upon us and we all want to look good because why not?? So I'm here to help y'all look good on a budget so you can have enough money left over to go out and celebrate.... you're welcome, you know I gatchu *insert high five here*. So, last year I had written an article on thrifting, or salaula if you may, on the Trendition-Z page, follow the link >  HERE  < . I gave a few tips on how to go about it so you will definitely find it useful. (Read it!!) A while ago, I happened to find myself in DAPP because they had clothes going at K8... K8!!! How could I walk past that?? So I got the vest and knit sweater in the thumbnail picture above for K8 each and felt pretty good about my purchase. Problem is, the vest was way too long as you see above. Ended up looking like a really short dress so it was idly sitting in the closet until I got a light bulb m...

Google images. Source: Pinterest The pursuit of love… not human love but Godly love. That’s what I need and where I have been going wrong. All this time I have been thinking the inner void and loneliness was because of my singleness and that maybe once I had a partner things would change. Boy oh boy have I been wrong 😔 I have just recently realised that I have been lacking something. Something nothing I or any other human can provide me with. I have been going through a cycle of things, overwhelming emotions. All of which have led to the making of wrong choices, a shift in focus to all the wrong things.  Besides trying my best to avoid sin, I am human and find myself slipping out a few lies every once in a while, bad speech, ill thoughts and intentions. And even though those things are somewhat easy to tame/control I have been unable to maintain a steady relationship with God. Yes I’m Christian, yes I read my Bible every day, yes I do good and avoid “great sin”, yes, ye...

I'm starting to sound like a broken record with my fear of love yet lover of love paradox speeches but *shrugs* I can't help it. Today though I'm sharing my ummm thoughts... ones I have more often than I ought to for a single gal 😔 So anyway.... I've always had a soft spot for "cute couples", you know, the ones who always seem to be happy and in love all the time. Affection filled pictures that I can't stop staring at.... well despite the cute and mushy stuff I also like the downsiee of relationships that no one ever shows or shares. I like to experience it all. And I picture it all the time. I want the next relationship I have to be filled with enough certainty that I'm able to get comfortable enough to live out my thoughts. I want to be there for my man as much as he is for me. I want him to wake up to my baked treats for breakfast, come home from work or a day/night out to a hot plate of my cooking, back rubs or foot rubs after a long day w...

Google Images "I, ***, take you, ***, to be my lawfully wedded husband/wife. To have and to hold for: Better or worse, Richer or poorer. In sickness and in health... 'Til death do us part" Scary those few words are... 'til death??? I mean that's a binding life long commitment that scares the heck out of me. What if things don't go as planned? What if this your lifetime partner happened to be the wrong one? What then? I know you can't just quit but then again you don't stay just because it's what is expected of you.... or do you? And with kids involved? oh my goodness don't get me started.  So, simply based on my past experiences which by the way weren't so great, I have been left unsure and afraid because well... here is a guy, he appears to be everything I'm looking for so I let my guard down and allow him into my heart/life. Few months in and it's all good. 1 year in and still going good. 1.5 years in and boom... jerk ...

So before this ‘blesser’ fad popped up we had the reign of the side chick. And we know how the internet is the praise temple of all things wrong/bad (don’t deny it, you know it’s true). Anyway it bothered me then and it bothers me now. What bothers me more are the women who attack the women that their men cheat on them with, I’ll explain. First of all, the person who owes you their loyalty is your partner NOT their mistress. The reason you’re hurting is because of YOUR PARTNER and not the other woman. The other person owes you zero loyalty and no explanation, they mean nothing to you and therefore have no way of causing you hurt. Your partner on the other hand, different story. You care for them, their actions have a bearing on your feelings, they promised you their love and loyalty. Who approached the mistress? Your man. Who made a move? Your man. Who lied to you? Your man. Who deceived you? Your man. Who’s in a relationship with you? Your man.  Some women will say, “The mistre...

A while ago I talked about learning to commit to a few things but last night while sitted in my room looking at pictures of “cute couples” and relationship quotes I found myself feeling a slight, dare I say, ‘couple envy’…. Yes, couple envy. I’ve mentioned my love for love a few times so that should explain it. Anyway, so I started to think “Why don’t I have that?” “Why am I single?” “Why can’t I have a happily ever after of my own?”…………..the answer? Well because I’m my own hindrance See, we all have had certain experiences that have caused us to have a certain degree of caution/worry/doubt/fear when it comes to certain things. For me, ‘certain things’ is relationships. Past relationships haven’t ended very well, been cheated on way too many times which beckons the thought “Is something so wrong with me that every one of my exes felt the need to cheat?” I’d like to think not but then that got me thinking that maybe I tolerated certain actions that I shouldn’t have and was blind to ma...

Hello :) (yea still can’t use emojis on here) anyway remember the complaints about school? And can you blame me, two indefinite closures, several go slows and class boycotts, I was mentally disrupted, lost focus but… **drumroll**… I managed to go on to my next year so woop woop *backflips* *moonwalks* and…..*jazz hands* lol okay I’m done. So, it was midnight, everyone in the house had gone to sleep, I’m a night owl so was watching t.v scrolling through channels trying to find something to watch when I saw ‘Nkani yamu sisi’ I like the show so I tuned in and the topic of discussion interested me so here we are… celibacy. First things first, what is to be celibate? Simply refraining from sex/sexual activity and/or marriage. Various people have different reasons for deciding to become celibate. Maybe after having had sex one decides to change for religious purposes or maybe they’ve just had enough or they’re tired of feeling like sex objects or just taking a break, there are several r...